When I was growing up the number one taboo subject was sex. This topic was relegated to a film shown in 7th grade, a book written by someone who most certainly had only a clinical view of our bodies and offered no insight into the confusing signals we were receiving and giving out, occasional forays into the forbidden world in the back seat of our boyfriends car, and whispered late night conversations with our girlfriends. Sex was something mysterious that was ok if you were married and absolutely evil if you were not. It’s no wonder we grew up with a very confused idea of what sexuality really was.
Now the pendulum seems to have swung completely the other way. I am constantly amazed at the number of commercials on TV dealing with private intimate issues. (I simply can't stand one more ED commercial!!!) My inbox is full everyday with ads promising me a satisfying sexual life if I will only by their product. And Sex is being used to sell everything from cold creams to cars. Sex is everywhere. Yet I find that when I speak to my teenage daughter and her friends they are just as confused and embarrassed as I was at that age. My girlfriends and I seem to be just as clueless. We complain about frequency, intimacy, and of course how we hate sex in the media but we don’t seem to get at the root of what is really at issue in our lives. I know intellectually that I am responsible for my own body and that sexuality is natural and necessary. Numerous studies show that a healthy sex life translates into a healthy body and that a strong sexual identity leads to increased confidence in all areas of our lives. And yet for me and millions of women, it is the one area of our lives that remains unexamined and ignored.
Nurturing your sexual self; is important, it affects all areas of your life and we must learn how to reconnect with this basic human characteristic. My show yesterday was with two amazing women , Deborah Kern and Shelley Imholtte, who sat down with me to discuss how to nurture our sexual selves.
I have to admit I was nervous before the interview because I really am not comfortable with the topic and where it may lead. However if I am do to my listeners justice I have to be willing to have the difficult conversations. And guess what? Like most things you fear in the future, it wasn't difficult at all! Deb and Shelley taught me so much and in such a comfortable, relaxed way. To catch the whole show visit my show archives but I will share one nugget with you. The sexual energy we possess is a creative energy that involves all five sense. If this energy isn't nurtured our creativity is blocked, in all areas of our lives. Sexual energy isn't just about the act of sex it is about the enjoyment of all pleasures....food, movement, song...And if we learn to slow down and enjoy things with all five senses our sense of well-being, our overall happiness increases.
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